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Three Common Mistakes That May Jeopardize Your Future
Posted by: | CommentsProminent author and speaker, John Maxwell, writes “In life, we can either play now and pay later or pay now and play later”. From observing the lives of others around us, we know that the people who are most successful in life are those that “pay” or prepare for their future first. The question then becomes, why don’t we put more time and energy into preparing for what is to come?
1. No Perspective On Failure: Many of us are so consumed thinking about past failures that we find it difficult to move forward with our lives; however, failure is an important part of learning. Google, as an organization, has some disappointments in its history. Google CEO, Eric Schmidt has a great attitude about failing. He says “We celebrate our failures. This is a company where it’s absolutely okay to try something that’s very hard, have it not be successful, and take the learning from that.” Adopt Google’s idea for yourself by celebrating failure, reflecting on what you have learned and finally moving forward.
2. No Future Focus: We often don’t take the time to picture how we would like our future to be. Kids will tell us all the time what they want to do in the future but adults rarely take the time to really contemplate it. I challenge you to think about what you would like your future to be in 10 years from now. Picture it in your mind and/or journal what would you like to happen. Get a clear vision of what you would like your life to be and have that be your guide for how to prepare.
3. No Support: I truly believe one of the main components of success is a strong support system. With very few exceptions, every successful person will tell you that they did not become successful without the support of others. What support system do you have in your life? I urge you to get together with a friend, mentor, or coach and get the encouragement and accountability that you deserve.
Don’t make these mistakes with your future. Get in the game and play now. Your future will be a lot brighter if you do.
Stacy Harshman brings her experience as a recruiter for a Fortune 500 corporation to her work as a life and career coach. In addition to helping people discover their passions, she also provides clients with insight into the mind of a recruiter, unlocking the secrets of what employers look for in potential employees. Stacy offers individual and group coaching in person and by phone to those seeking positive change in their professional and personal lives.
I'm Just Not Good Enough: Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
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Have you ever thought to yourself, “I’m just not good enough”? I had the experience recently during a class presentation that didn’t turn out as I had anticipated. The experience caused me to reflect on how to overcome such self sabotage.
I believe that negative self talk is often more prominent when we are going through a time of transition. Often during a career change or a time of learning a new skill, the “Saboteur”, that negative internal voice, will appear. Knowing that the Saboteur will be at work during these times is the first step of battling its effects. Rather than being surprised that negative chatter is happening, be prepared for it. One method of preparation is to know how you are going to respond. As an example you could say, “Hello Saboteur. I knew you were going to show up. I’m ready for you but I’m not going to pay attention to you.”
Another method of dealing with negative self talk is to simply acknowledge it for what it is – thoughts that you have the power to overcome. Remember that the negativity is not based in reality and does not have relevance. The self destructive talk should be mentally tossed out and replaced by positive, affirming thoughts. One method of accomplishing this “tossing out” is to actually do just that. Write down the all of the negative thoughts on a piece of paper, wad up the paper and toss it out in the garbage.
Battling a few negative thoughts is one thing, but what happens when these thoughts are persistent? For those times, outside help is needed. This assistance could be in the form of a coach, counselor, or trusted friend. A call for help to a Divine Source may also be needed to connect us to the truth of our identity. For example, we need wisdom to recognize and utilize our God-given talents, strengths, and potential to accomplish big dreams.
Keeping negative self talk in check will be a life long endeavor; however, the next time you hear it, remember you were already expecting it. Mentally toss out the negative trash by replacing it with affirming thoughts. Think also of your connection to the Divine, remembering that you were created with talents, strengths, and great potential.
Stacy Harshman brings her experience as a recruiter for a Fortune 500 corporation to her work as a life and career coach. In addition to helping people discover their passions, she also provides clients with insight into the mind of a recruiter, unlocking the secrets of what employers look for in potential employees. Stacy offers individual and group coaching in person and by phone to those seeking positive change in their professional and personal lives.
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